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Spirituality

Jun 28
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Tools for Communication and Prayer

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The road to mutual welcome and acceptance requires spouses to do a great deal of listening and to engage in honest, self-giving conversation with each other and with God. Listening with an Open Mind Spouses often give one another advice that is helpful. At times, though, the advice is unsolicited and can create barriers, conflict, and even hostility. Marriage experts tell us that too often this advice is seen as nagging or bossy and therefore too frequently is simply dismissed, despite the fact that there is considerable advantage to listening to one’s spouse with an open mind and at least considering, if not always accepting, his or her advice. Teri: The Door John and I were married two and a half years and had a ten month- old daughter. We were living in our first home and decided to install a storm door for our front entrance. We went to…

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Jun 28
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Accepting Your Spouse as Precious Gift

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You welcome and accept your spouse as Jesus welcomes you when you embrace him or her as a precious gift. Between 1979 and 1984 St. John Paul II gave a series of talks on the dignity of the human person and marriage. These lectures became known as the Theology of the Body. Then pope, John Paul taught that God gave Eve to Adam and Adam to Eve as a gift. He made each for the other. You are made for each other, and in marriage you give your spouse the gift that you are. In your mutual self-giving and receiving, you affirm one another as a man and as a woman and you grow closer together. When leading retreats for married couples, we often ask, “How is your spouse a gift from God to you?” Here are some of the answers we have heard: “We are thankful that God made…

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Jun 28
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What Baptism Teaches Us about Marriage

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Through Baptism we enter into a personal relationship with Jesus, who loves us intimately and completely, accepting us as we are while also calling us to be more. The way Jesus loves us in Baptism is the model for the way spouses are called to love each other Both in Baptism and in Marriage two persons freely choose each other. In Baptism Jesus freely chooses us because he loves us, and we freely choose him. In the sacrament of Marriage spouses must freely and completely choose each other. In Baptism Christ forgives our sins and accepts us as members of his Body to share his divine life with us. In Marriage husband and wife see beyond each other’s imperfections and shortcomings. They welcome and accept each other as they are and join together for the whole of life. In Baptism we become one with Christ as members of his Mystical…

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May 31
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Tools for Money Management and Communication Skills

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The commitment to be present touches all aspects of the marital rela­tionship. It is reflected in a special way in the honesty and trust spouses need to have with each other in their day-to-day interactions. One of the most tangible expressions of mutual trust and commitment is visible in a couple’s way of managing their money. Their ability to communicate openly about finances and to harmonize their buying and spending styles is critical to a couple’s development of healthy financial habits. This ability strengthens the relationship. Therefore, we will address here not only money management but also communication skills and the importance of remembering that no matter what we do we are always in God’s presence. Teri: Making a Budget Before John and I were married, we discussed how we would manage our money, and we agreed that we would have only one checking account. For us, having a common…

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May 31
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The Value of Commitment and the Power of Grace

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Every couple wants their marriage to last a lifetime. Researchers tell us that the presence of an irrevocable commitment contributes to the happiness of the spouses. Linda Waite, a sociologist at the University of Chicago, and Maggie Gallagher, former chair of the National Organi­zation for Marriage, reported on their research in The Case for Marriage. They found that “having a partner who is committed for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, makes people happier and healthier.” But married life can be difficult, and today many couples find it hard to keep their promises. Many young people have grown up expe­riencing the pains of divorce in their homes. While wanting to marry, they find it hard to believe that marriages can last a lifetime and are afraid to commit. If you are one of them, take courage. One of the ben­efits of a marriage founded on faith is…

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May 31
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What Confirmation Teaches Us about Marriage

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Christ’s love for us as expressed in the sacrament of Confirmation is the model for the love that you will promise to your spouse in your marriage vows. There are many similarities between the sacraments of Confirmation and Marriage: In Confirmation, the Holy Spirit binds the candidate permanently to Christ, and in Marriage, through your promises, the Holy Spirit will bind you permanently to your spouse. In Confirmation, the bishop marks the candidates with oil indicating that they belong to Christ. In Marriage, spouses mark each other with a wedding ring to indicate that they belong to one another. In Confirmation, the presence of the Holy Spirit strengthens the can­didate’s bond with Christ and his or her membership in the Church. In marriage, the spouses’ reliable presence to each other strengthens their bond, increases their mutual trust, and prepares them for life­long intimacy. Confirmation strengthens Christians in their mission to…

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Apr 25
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Learning to Bring Comfort and Healing

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In marriage, loving as Jesus means being aware of each other’s needs and pains and helping one another carry our burdens. One of the early challenges couples experience in marriage is the feeling of drifting apart and the anguish that comes from it. Dr. William Doherty writes that getting married is like launching a trip on the Mississippi River with a canoe. Unless the couple paddles to resist the currents, they will be carried downstream to places they did not intend to visit. Dr. Doherty writes in his book Take Back Your Marriage that after a few months or years of marriage, spouses tend to let their relationship shift into “automatic pilot,” and they drift apart. John: What’s Wrong with Us? The young lady sitting in my office looked distraught. Valerie and John had been married barely six months. They married dreaming of a blissful life together. Now, however, Valerie…

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Apr 25
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Tools for Enduring Pain and Suffering in Faith

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Our Attitude Makes a Difference John: I Say “White”; He Says “Black” A few years ago I visited my sister and her husband who live in Italy. During a quiet moment when she and I were alone on her balcony overlooking the garden, she said with a frustrated tone in her voice, “How can I go on? He is driving me crazy.” She was referring to her husband. “There are days I cannot stand him. I say ‘white’; he says ‘black.’ I say, ‘Let’s go right’; he wants to go left.” Then, after a long pause, she added, “I guess this is life. We are different. He is my cross, and I am his.” She continued, “John, don’t misunderstand me. There are many good days, and I am grateful for them. I love him. But when things get tough, I pray a lot for peace, and then I carry on….

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Apr 25
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What the Anointing of the Sick Teaches Us about Marriage

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God’s compassion and comfort touches us today in the sacraments of the Catholic Church, and in a particular way in the sacrament of the Anointing of the Sick. In this sacrament, Christ embraces us with his forgiving and healing love. He joins our pains to his suffering on the Cross and in so doing gives meaning to our distresses and gives us hope because of his resurrection. Christ’s healing is felt today, through the power of the Holy Spirit, by those who receive the sacrament of the Anointing of the Sick. In one of the letters to the early Christians, James prescribed the ancient practice of anointing the sick when he wrote, “Are any among you sick? They should call for the elders of the church and have them pray over them, anointing them with oil in the name of the Lord” (Jas 5:14). The sacrament of the Anointing of…

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Mar 28
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What the Eucharist Teaches Us about Marriage

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In Christian marriage, Jesus invites us to be generous and to give our­selves to our spouses as he gives himself to us in the Eucharist. The fol­lowing are some of the similarities between the Eucharist and Marriage. The Eucharist is a sacrament through which Christ gives himself totally to us. Marriage is a sacrament in which the spouses give themselves totally to each other. The Eucharist is a sacrament of communion and intimacy. In the Mass Jesus shares himself with us, he makes himself vulnerable to us, and through our reception of him we grow in communion and intimacy with him. Marriage is also a sacrament of commu­nion and intimacy. Through the spouses’ mutual sharing of their lives—dreams, feelings, thoughts, material possessions, finances, and bodies—they make themselves vulnerable to each other; when such gift is respected and accepted, they grow in union and intimacy. The Eucharist is a sacrament of…

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