By Emily Jaminet When you are feeling overwhelmed, confused, and burdened, Jesus wants to set your heart on fire with his love. He desires to come into your heart and home to deepen your faith and provide hope, healing, comfort, and love. One of the most meaningful devotions we can practice is enthronement to His Sacred and Merciful Heart. In our lives, stress and personal trials are inevitable but there are graces in the Sacred Heart that help us respond to life’s challenges. This devotion was once known, loved, and honored by most Catholic families and served as a bedrock, especially in the 1940s and 1950s in America. What did parents of this era know and experience that we can learn from? I believe they learned how to live and let go and experience the freedom that comes from loving Christ and entrusting your family to his heart. We can…
By Mark and Melanie Hart It’s vital for couples to have a common vision of what success looks like at home and not just view parenting as a shared workload. This is one reason we believe so strongly that every couple should have a mission statement for their marriage and family. It should be something you can craft together, live by, and, as the kids get older, introduce to your children. Every couple’s mission statement will look different, but here are some priorities that you may want to consider: Putting your marriage relationship first. Incorporating your Catholic faith. Committing to serving others as a family. Practicing hospitality and having a home open to visitors. Making healthy lifestyle choices. Teaching your kids about the faith. Fostering prayer and virtue within the home. We recommend taking this project to prayer and asking the Lord to guide you as you write down what…
By John Bosio To the poets, May is the month of flowers; for the Church, it is the month of Mary; and for all of us, it is the month to celebrate our mothers. In honor of Mother’s Day, I share with you Pope Francis’s message to mothers in the Apostolic Exhortation Amoris Laetitia, The Joy of Love. Motherhood begins with pregnancy and the Pope recognizes that pregnancy is difficult at times, but also rewarding. “A mother joins with God to bring forth the miracle of new life.” He encourages mothers to ask God for the wisdom to know their children and to accept them as they are. “It is important for a child to feel wanted. He or she is not an accessory or a solution to a particular problem.” (127) The Pope is very specific with his advice to mothers. “With great affection, I urge all future mothers: keep happy and let nothing rob you of the interior joy…
By John Bosio A few years ago I read in our Catholic newspaper an interview with a couple who attended the annual wedding anniversary Mass presided by the local bishop. The reporter asked the wife to share the secret of their successful fifty-year marriage. The wife responded that they had found great strength in their shared faith and in their participation in the Church’s sacraments. If we were to ask a hundred Catholic couples how their faith helps them persevere and grow in their relationship we would likely hear a hundred different answers. But in these answers we would find a common theme: their understanding of what love is. Catholic couples learn the qualities of Christian love when they gather around the Eucharistic table and when they participate in the sacraments. When gathered as a community in prayer, they hear Jesus’ message: “Love one another as I have loved you.” (Jn 15:12) And as…
By John Bosio In 2014 and 2015, the Catholic Church experienced an unprecedented event: a Synod of Bishops that spanned two years. The topic of the synod was the family. In preparation for that event, Catholics around the world were asked about the needs of families. Families and their importance in the life of the Church were on the minds of the bishops as they debated how to support and care for them. In 2016, Pope Francis—responding to the recommendations of the synod—issued the apostolic exhortation Amoris Laetitia (The Joy of Love). Francis tells us that the Church is a family of families; therefore if families are strong, the Church is strong. Both St. John Paul II and Benedict XVI also believed that the future of the Church and of society depends on the wellbeing of the family. Unfortunately, many families today are struggling because of the social and economic damages caused by the pandemic and other disasters. On March 19, the feast of St. Joseph, Pope Francis will launch a year of activities…
By John Bosio I have often compared married life to a dance. It is rhythmic, passionate, and beautiful. But this dance can easily turn into a tug of war, a battle for control and for power. Do you remember how you and your spouse have battled over such things as “my money/your money,” “my job/your job,” “my parents/your parents,” “my turn/your turn,” “my friends/your friends?” and “I want/you want?” I do not remember the first big argument that Teri and I had, but I remember very clearly one painful confrontation that took place in the first year of our marriage. Not surprisingly, it was about money. When we got married, we transferred Teri’s money into “my” checking account. We thought this was the best way to handle our finances. For us, having a common account represented our intent of sharing everything. Since our money was now in what used to be “my” checking account, we both assumed that I would…
by Catherine Fowler Sample “For we walk by faith, not by sight.” 2 Corinthians 5:7 I moved to Southern California when I was a fresh-faced twenty-year-old. I was transferring to a new college, but it may as well have been a transfer to another planet. The West Coast was radically different from my landlocked hometown in the Heartland, and I barely knew a soul there aside from Great-Aunt Patsy. This early January in SoCal was unlike any other I had experienced: The sun was warm. The sky was blue. Jacaranda trees were filled with amethyst blooms. Although it was winter, it smelled of spring, and the world was full of possibility—a mingling of trepidation and hope. In a new environment, I couldn’t help but take in the world with fresh eyes and live differently. When I was outside, I slowed down and stopped to smell the roses (quite literally!). For…
By John Bosio When I was a young boy living in northern Italy, one morning after Mass my pastor asked me to go with him to bless homes. Early that afternoon we set out. I walked along carrying a container with holy water and a big empty basket. The pastor said, “Today we will visit the farmhouses just outside of town.” At each stop the priest gathered the families living there, whoever was not in the fields, and explained that he had come to bless their homes. This is something he did each year and they were expecting him. The people living at the farm assembled in the largest room. “Remember that we bless your house each year to rededicate your homes and your families to God. God lives here with you. Let’s make room for him,” the pastor explained. The message to his flock still resonates with me today, especially as…
By John Bosio I have never met a couple, regardless of how long they have been married, who did not cherish sharing memories of their beginning and of the key moments in their life together. Every couple is a unique story. You and your spouse are a story. I invite you to celebrate the journey you have traveled thus far together by recalling your story. The song from the movie The Love Story. sung by Andy Williams, comes to mind: “Where do I begin to tell the story of a love…” If I asked you to tell me your love story where would it begin? Would you start telling your story from your wedding day or would you go back to a time when you first met, or even to a time before you ever knew each other? Each year for the past seven years, when I go to Thailand on business, I am reminded…
By John Bosio During a recent visit with my sister and brother-in-law who are adjusting to the retired life, each of them complained to me about the other. She was saying: “Retired life would be great if he was not so stubborn. When he sets his mind to do something, he does it, and either I go along with it or we fight. The house is a mess. He starts a project, then another, then one more, and never finishes any one of them. His presence at home 24 hours-a–day drives me crazy.” I heard a similar litany from her husband: “I retired first and I had my own comfortable routine at home during the day. Now she is at home and we get in each other’s way. She criticizes everything I do, including my favorite hobbies. For years I enjoyed tending to our garden. When she was working she had no interest in it. Now she is telling me what to plant and when to…